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“I was just trying to help” – Five Tips that will actually work
Let me tell you a little something about me. I bet you’ll recognise a piece of you too. When I was 18 I moved back home. I had been a Big Independent Adult for 12 months, but my parents had … Continue reading
Tips to Successfully Manage Kids’ Screen Time
Most of Australia is just past two weeks (or more, for private school families) into our long summer break, and now is around the time that parents often start evaluating how much time their kids are spending on their screens. … Continue reading
Posted in Frequently Asked Questions, Parenting, Teens, Tweens
Tagged parenting, Screen time, Teens, Tweens
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Understanding Family Therapy for Separated Families
Parenting Orders can have blunt statements directing that parents “be restrained and an injunction granted restraining the parties from denigrating the other party”; and “use their best endeavors to reach agreements” – but how do you actually do that? That’s a skill-development process, and belongs in the therapy room, not the court room. Continue reading
First Year of High School – A Survival Guide for Parents
Are you taking a deep breath? Are you feeling like you and your kid are about to step onto a roller coaster into the great unknown? Hell yes, oh my word, you are in for a ride. A wild, hilarious, … Continue reading
Posted in Frequently Asked Questions, Parenting, School, Teens, Tweens
Tagged high school, parent survival guide, school, secondary school, transition to high school, Tweens, year 7
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Heading into 2020 with 20/20 Vision
There’s a range of narratives I could tell about this year. 2019 has been the year of some immense career highlights, with presentations at national and international conferences. A sensational year of being a proud mother and partner, complete with … Continue reading
My Husband is Not the Problem
The thing that I see the most is that perpetrating men are loud and virulent across social media platforms – and many, many (not all) kind, generous, beautiful men are silent. If you are with us, we need to know you are there. Continue reading
Sitting in the Mire – The slow, steady path back from parenting mistakes
Whether you have trained in Emotion Coaching, Circle of Security, or Triple P, almost all parenting approaches include the importance of soothing and validating emotions before moving into problem solving – and indeed, children are excellent at solving their own … Continue reading
Posted in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Circle of Security, Compassion Focused Therapy, Parenting, triple P
Tagged Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, ACT, anxiety, children, Cirle of Security, Compassion Focused Therapy, Emotion Coaching, emotions, feelings, how to soothe a child, Kids, Mental Health, parenting fails, parenting mistakes, parents, relationship, relationship repair, Thinking, Threat zone, triple P
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Resources and Recommendations for Separating and Separated Parents
There are many decisions to make and negotiations to step through with someone you used to love and now have different (and possibly many) feelings towards. Be gentle and kind with yourself in this process. Here are my top recommendations to parents navigating the aftermath of separation. Continue reading
Posted in Book Review, Parenting, Separted parents
Tagged children, Co-parenting, divorce, emotions, Family Court, Family Law, Kids, Mental Health, parents, relationship, Separation
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Give up on Happiness
It’s early morning and Toothless is distressed. “There are THREE mornings I have to go to school early. I don’t want to!” he tells me. I’m not a morning person either – he has a sympathetic ear with me. I … Continue reading
Posted in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Mental Health, Parenting
Tagged ACT, children, emotions, feelings, happiness, Kids, Mental Health, parents, Steven Hayes
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From the Lips of Those with Autism, on World Autism Awareness Day
For Autism Awareness Day I’m just going to share with you some of my favourite quotes ABOUT autism, by those who HAVE autism. Continue reading
Posted in Autism, Parenting
Tagged aspergers, Autism, autism awareness day, children, disability, friendships, Kids, Mental Health, parents, relationship, Thinking, values
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