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My Husband is Not the Problem
The thing that I see the most is that perpetrating men are loud and virulent across social media platforms – and many, many (not all) kind, generous, beautiful men are silent. If you are with us, we need to know you are there. Continue reading
Sitting in the Mire
Whether you have trained in Emotion Coaching, Circle of Security, or Triple P, almost all parenting approaches include the importance of soothing and validating emotions before moving into problem solving – and indeed, children are excellent at solving their own … Continue reading
Posted in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Circle of Security, Compassion Focused Therapy, Parenting, triple P
Tagged ACT, anxiety, children, Cirle of Security, Compassion Focused Therapy, Emotion Coaching, emotions, feelings, Kids, Mental Health, parents, relationship, Thinking, Threat zone, triple P
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Resources and Recommendations for Separating and Separated Parents
There are many decisions to make and negotiations to step through with someone you used to love and now have different (and possibly many) feelings towards. Be gentle and kind with yourself in this process. Here are my top recommendations to parents navigating the aftermath of separation. Continue reading
Posted in Book Review, Parenting, Separted parents
Tagged children, Co-parenting, divorce, emotions, Family Court, Family Law, Kids, Mental Health, parents, relationship, Separation
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Give up on Happiness
It’s early morning and Toothless is distressed. “There are THREE mornings I have to go to school early. I don’t want to!” he tells me. I’m not a morning person either – he has a sympathetic ear with me. I … Continue reading
Posted in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Mental Health, Parenting
Tagged ACT, children, emotions, feelings, happiness, Kids, Mental Health, parents, Steven Hayes
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From the Lips of Those with Autism, on World Autism Awareness Day
For Autism Awareness Day I’m just going to share with you some of my favourite quotes ABOUT autism, by those who HAVE autism. Continue reading
Posted in Autism, Parenting
Tagged aspergers, Autism, autism awareness day, children, disability, friendships, Kids, Mental Health, parents, relationship, Thinking, values
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How to talk to your kid about seeing a Psych
This would have to be one of the questions I’m asked most often by concerned parents. They have reached the point of deciding psychologist support is a useful step for their child, but Oh! How to broach that topic??? It’s … Continue reading
Tasting Freedom – and why this is my last Blog Post ever.
There’s this moment when I’m flying down the hill, wind in my face, blue sky above me, and I notice this thought passing by – that this is it, THIS is tasting freedom. It’s exhilarating, and not just because I’ve … Continue reading
Posted in Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Mental Health, Parenting
Tagged Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, ACT, children, defusion, Happiness Trap, Healthy Eating, Hiccup, Kids, Mental Health, mindfulness, parenting, perspective taking, PN OCD, Thinking, values
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Stuff that Definitely Doesn’t Suck – a review of Ben Sedley’s “Stuff that Sucks”
I don’t know what your reading list is like – maybe it’s a little like mine. Last year, I was super excited to hear a colleague of mine had his book published. What a magnificent achievement. Then I looked at … Continue reading
It’s not the boundaries that matter
I’m at a business lunch talking with a stranger. He’s a father of two, and he looks at me intently and asks “How do we keep our children safe? How do we protect them from all there is out there?” … Continue reading
