My career has always been woven around working with complex families navigating tricky paths. For around the past seven years, this has involved supporting co-parents involved with the Family Court system trying to find their way through to smooth, low-stress, high-thriving co-parenting after separation and divorce.
My experience with these families is that they are stressed and strained. At a time when they are going through one of the most difficult, painful life transitions, they also have to somehow find the resourcing to show up for their little people. There are sleepless nights, aching hearts, a roller coaster of emotions, including hurt, anger, fear … right alongside making school lunches, doing the washing; and figuring out where on earth the children will sleep and live; how to help them make those transitions; and when and how often exactly is it reasonable to expect them to call the other parent???
There is no one sharing the parenting cognitive load with them anymore. If there ever was.
If this sounds like you, then you are the person I’m writing this for.
The Co-Parenting Companion Partners with You to:
- Predict and plan your way around the common stumbling blocks that lead co-parents back to the court room and therapy room.
- Free you to live a life that is less about conflict with the person who is no longer your lover, and more about enjoying your fabulous kids.
- Build your amazing new life as you refine your role of co-parent.
With time-sensitive weekly reminders, tips and skills, grounded in research, and based around the West Australian school year, including:
- Managing all the nuances of visitation and contact – reducing the stress of handover; and supporting your child to have a healthy relationship with both parents.
- Communication skills for nurturing connection and support with your young person, and collaborative parenting with your co-parent.
- Self-care strategies to manage the times that are more painful as you raise your children across two homes.
Who is the Co-Parenting Companion Designed for?
If you say yes to any of these, it’s written for you:
- Sole parents wanting to co-parent effectively and efficiently, who don’t have a therapist and/or any ongoing court proceedings
- Separated Parents whose children are attending therapy (with any therapist)
- Separated parents attending individual therapy (with any therapist), who would like some additional low-cost supports specifically around post-separation co-parenting
- Co-Parents attending or wait-listed for Family Therapy (with any therapist) who want to achieve more outside of the therapy room
How long should I subscribe for?
Co-parents need more money in their own pockets; and more clarity/affirmation that the steps they’re taking are developmentally-sensitive around the best interests of the child. A single session with a psychologist can be $260 (APS recommended fee), and an hour with a lawyer anywhere from $250-$600. The Co-Parenting Companion is designed to be consumed as a once-off 12 month subscription, so long as you add your own recurring diary prompts in throughout the year. However, you may find having a companion for the journey so helpful that you choose to stay on for longer. Stay as long as you’re finding benefit.
Do both parents need to subscribe?
No, though that is the ideal. Even if your co-parent never subscribes, and never attends a parenting or communication skills course, there will be plenty, plenty, plenty here just for you.
Does Tiffany need to be my therapist?
No. There are loads of really brilliant therapists! Not all therapists are court-informed, though, and that means that sometimes the way to best help you navigate a co-parenting issue might not be their immediate go-to. The idea of this service is that you can keep seeing your brilliant therapist, and this will give you a heads-up on any co-parenting related topics. You can share them with your therapist if you’d like individualised support for how to apply the skills and tips in your specific situation.
I’m not in Western Australia – is there any benefit for me?
In putting this resource together, I have a particular time-sensitive focus around the West Australian school year; and significant dates in Australia. However, each week is jam-packed with tips, resource links, and simple parenting and communication strategies that work at any time of year. I would expect the value for any co-parent around the world will out-weigh the West Australian focus.
There are plans to expand the time-sensitive aspects to other Australian States and Territories, and then perhaps more global – but I’m just starting closer to home, to give a bit of nurture and support to my own community.
Can I try before I buy?
Yes. When you sign up, you’ll receive a two-week free trial. If you get more benefit in that fortnight than two cups of coffee, then it’s probably the right service for you.
Can I use this in Court?
I mean, honestly, the intention of this service is to keep you out of the court room as much and as often as possible!! But, yes. I can provide you with a simple report to present to court that includes:
- A brief overview of the material covered by the Co-Parenting Companion
- How long you have been subscribed for
- The percentage of times you’ve opened your emails
- A rating for how much you’ve engaged with linked content.
An additional administrative fee is charged for production of this report, and three weeks notice is required.